“Does hardship really make a person stronger? If you think so, under what conditions and at what point is it too much hardship? If you don’t buy that hardship makes a person stronger, what do you think does make a person stronger?”
Do I believe hardship makes us stronger? Ultimately, Yes…if we can press through the hardship. But everyone has limits, breaking points. My least favorite saying is, “God doesn’t give us more than we can handle”…usually backed up by quoting the Bible verse, 1 Corinthians 10:13, which speaks about temptation.
I consider myself a devout Christian who loves God and believes He is good. However, what are multiple suicide attempts, if not evidence I’d reached “more than I can handle”. I’m neither proud, nor ashamed, to admit these times of desperation…and obviously God was determined that I survive to fight another day or foe.
The thing about failing at suicide more than a couple times is that I realized the futility, and had to figure out better coping strategies. The last attempt was 1991…and in the years that followed I purchased a handgun which remained in my bureau drawer for 15 years. It was a strange comfort to have it—and proof of increasing strength that I never used it. (Because it had not been fired, I sold it for the purchase price…which I’m told is not common practice.)
So yes, hardships of various description, over six-plus decades, have made me stronger than I would have imagined when I was younger. There are still difficult times when I wonder how I can manage another day…but then I recall how often, and far God has brought me, grit my teeth as I pray…and keep keeping on. The Lord won’t let go of me.
Here are some verses I meditate on:
“Know therefore that the LORD thy God, he is God, the faithful God, which keepeth covenant and mercy with them that love him…”
“Our soul is escaped as a bird out of the snare of the fowlers: the snare is broken, and we are escaped.”
“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.”
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